Being taken for granted and used by the person you’re seeing is one of the biggest things you can never see. You get blinded by the feelings you have for them, it clouds your judgment and strongly start believing they are always right.
Wrong.
Letting this go on for a long time, you start to lose yourself in the process because you’re constantly trying to be the person they want you to be. You are always trying to ‘please’ them, doing any and every thing they ask of you because you can’t say no.
It is only natural to not want to let your partner down, but when you’re afraid about what might happen if you tell your partner no, this is a massive red flag.
You start to revolve your life around their schedule. You sit and wait to hear from them, making sure you’re free, but they never message. You cave in and ask first because they have you wrapped around their little finger. The only time they seem overly interested is when it’s convenient for them.
They are always sweet and loving when it is followed by a favor right? You’re letting your feelings over-right your proper judgment and this is where it becomes easy for them to take advantage of you. Oftentimes, once they get what they want, they’ll give you the cold shoulder and go back to their normal ways.
Remember the importance of your own personal growth and goals. It is always hard to get back to the person you use to be after being so codependent of your partner. Don’t let your kind-hearted nature get lost in the midst of putting your partners needs before your own and being the person you think they want you to be.
If you never know quite where you stand when it comes to a long-term commitment, your significant other could be using you or just having fun until someone else comes along.
Your worth is not defined through the eyes of others. Create your own path and take care of number one, yourself. Just because someone desires you, does not mean they will value you.
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