Getting Over Someone Who Is No Longer There
It’s incredible the amount of emotion you can feel towards someone even though they aren’t really in your life anymore. The restraints you had to put in place to detach yourself from that specific person. The obstacles you had to climb to get to where you are now.. and let be honest, you wouldn’t be where you are now without them.
You go through this constant battle between your thoughts and the actual real world. Making up excuses for your other half’s actions. They persuade you into thinking whatever you’re thinking isn’t the right way to think and turn you from being the ‘victim’ into the ‘villain’. And for some reason you are okay with that. You believe them. Because they could never do wrong by you. This happens way too often. In almost every type of relationship.
Make changes for yourself
It came to a point where I couldn’t become the victim anymore. I needed to do this for myself and for my own mental health. I started to seek out what i thought was my last option and that was to see a psychic healer. I had been to previous psychics before but there was something about this one. Everyone is different and not everyone will believe in this
Without saying anything, she said to me “more often than not, people can create these ties around your body”, she could never undo the love, but the negative ties she could.
It came surprising to me but understandable to every one else, I had ties around my neck and feet. From within that moment I instantly felt relieved, released, like a sense of freedom as I walked out the door. My eyes became so clear and I could see things that weren’t visible before. I found the strength I needed to slowly walk away from what I now believe I never truly had in the first place. It almost makes you feel embarrassed. How could I not see this earlier?
Letting go but something always stays
This feeling never actually leaves you. Once that bond forms in such an intense way. Wherever you are or how far you travel in life after, a part of you is always attached. It’s soul binding. You can still feel each other.
They appear in your dreams, the memories remain forever and never let you entirely forget. Subliminal messages come through as if your two souls are still trying to communicate.
As time passes by and you continue to see through each day without them, even though their memory is still imprinted into your heart, it starts to give you a sense of peace and strength. When that is what you feel you’ve made it. You should feel proud of yourself.
“You never know your own strength until being strong is all you can do”
Keys to staying strong
- Never forgetting the reasons you needed to let go in the first place. Should be the best reminder to not fall back into old patterns.
- You are constantly changing. What might of been right for you 6 months ago might not be right for you anymore.
- If it’s too “complicated” it’s not meant to be.
- Remembering that feeling of weakness you use to feel should encourage you to keep being as strong as you feel now.
- Make yourself your main priority in life. Keep learning to love yourself before you think about loving anyone else.
- Connect and reach out to friends and put your time and effort into friendships that deserve your time.
At the end of the day, it comes down self-care, realising and going after what you truly want and need. It might take you longer than others to figure it all out. But we all do things in our own way. I was on my very last legs before I could finally let myself leave. Trust in yourself, you will get there. Learning these few things and being aware will help you live a healthier life.
