Can your relationship survive once the sex is gone? This is a situation most of you will face at some stage throughout your relationship. Starting in your teenage years you are taught to believe without sex ‘it wont last’ or your relationship is coming to an end.
Intimacy comes in many forms and faces, you are introduced to it from the minute you are welcomed into this world, it is only natural for you to create habits and beliefs along the way.
Naturally you crave that type of connection from the person you have chosen to spend your life with. You’re only human right?
You get frightened when you start to realise the sex is slowly fading out and you start to question your partners intentions or your partners level of love towards you. This is where most of you let the physical intimacy over-right the other forms of intimacy that are just as important.
You can have a low desire for sex but still feel madly in love and extremely attracted to your partner.
Even though that physical intimacy may not be present at the moment, that emotional intimacy is still there. Emotional intimacy is built up over time. It takes patience and an open mind from both sides.
It is really important to retain good communication with your partner about how you are feeling. It is important to understand the different ways your partner gives and receives love. Too often you miss those little gestures of love your partner is showing you by expecting the opposite from them.
Rather than ignoring and pretending your differences don’t matter, acknowledge each other through revealing and relating your internal differences and accepting those differences. That’s when true intimacy steps in.
Celebrate the little things. If holding hands or getting that tiny bit closer in bed is a step forward, remind yourself to be happy with that. It takes a while to get use to and to work up to the initial and spontaneous style of sex again.
It takes two people who are ready and willing to do what it takes to make a relationship work. Listen to each other, figure out what you want, take the pressure off and make time for each other. Sometimes the underlying issues may not be about you. Trust in yourself and trust in your partner.
