From a young age we are taught what is right and what is wrong, what is acceptable and what is not. What should be justified and what shouldn’t.
Sometimes, what we take from that information guides us in the right direction and sometimes it does not. These days it is super easy to get stuck in the confusion of what is right and what is wrong, with what society has enforced us to believe.
These days, it is easy to believe that if we are not performing at our best that we are not deserving of the best.
These days, it is easy to believe that if we are too imperfect then we can’t and won’t be loved by the perfect person.
These days, it is easy to believe that if we do not have our life figured out then we are a failure.
We tend to exaggerate our own flaws. We might think we are too skinny, or heavier than we really are, and in our minds, we find the faults first and let them take control of our judgement and emotions before we ever learn how to overlook them and see ourselves or others in the correct light of reality and the way society is supposed to be, equal.
It is easy for us to think this way when life is full of high standards and unrealistic expectations. But the truth is, learning how to love an imperfect person is also how we can learn to love our imperfect selves.
Perfection is a word I hate to use, to me perfection is limiting. It cuts us off from what we are capable of doing, giving, receiving, and becoming.
Sam Keen has a famous quote;
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly”.
So, let go of the illusion of perfection, when you notice that you are judging yourself, STOP. You CAN stop, it is possible, and it begins with a choice. When you aren’t letting perfectionism control you, you can change anything.
Please remember you do not have to have it all figured out, you do not need to do your best every day of your life, just start living your life, make a choice that is your own and navigate along the way.
Your worth is not defined through the eyes of others or the expectations of society. Believe in yourself and please remember that no one in life is perfect.
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